My Dad

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

I have the greatest dad in the whole world. Seriously. I'm not even kidding.

He has the ability to be proactive and pragmatic, diplomatic and realistic, all at the same time, and for that I am ridiculously grateful.

I admire his ability to see the big picture from all sides as opposed to only one side of any given issue. I love him for his ability to see the larger picture in seemingly isolated situations on life's path.

When I ask him for advice, I don't receive instant gratification. Instead, he takes the time to prepare his response... a reflective response that he shares with me when he's ready. I would never expect him to defend me; instead, I am grateful for all the times I've learned from him due to his ability to teach me to learn from my own mistakes instead of glossing over or completely ignoring my mistakes.

In other words, he doesn't rush to my rescue; instead, he takes the time to evaluate every scenario from an impartial, third-party-set-of-eyes. Could I possibly be any luckier?

As a single mom who gets to play both roles in the parenting scene, I admire this quality in him more than he'll ever know.

I understand that not everyone is fortunate enough to have a dad with this level of reflection and insight - I understand that it's much easier to jump to the defense of your kid, protect them at all cost, and instantly profess your loyalty regardless of common sense. Easier does not mean better.

The harder and more challenging part of parenting is letting your kids know when they are in the wrong and providing them with the opportunity to truly learn from their mistakes. I am forever appreciative that my dad taught me from an early age how to recognize when I was wrong, and I have tried my hardest to take advantage of teachable moments with my girls. The beautiful part of this is such an incredible bonus: you get the opportunity of teaching your kids how to better themselves; you have the opportunity to teach them how they can learn from their mistakes instead of telling them you will be in charge of helping to conceal their mistakes for them.

If you're covering for your kid, nobody wins in the grand scheme of things.

It's funny to me how life repeats itself. I see so many circumstances in children's most formative years where the parents choose to gloss over their children's attempts to buck authority and instead place the blame on adults who choose to hold their child accountable for learning, behavior, and respect. I can tell you with pretty solid confidence that the parents who 'let it fly' and 'put the blame on the educator/adult' are doing favors for exactly no one. Eventually the child has to learn the difference between respect and disrespect, right and wrong, and growing from mistakes through trial by fire.

Yuck! Why not learn and grow together as you navigate this road called life?

My dad has provided me with so many truisms throughout the past 41 years, and I will always be thankful for the lessons I learn from him and the opportunity to share those lessons with my girls.

This guy has had my heart for as long as I can remember, and I wish there were more like him! 



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